Negative people are a cancer that must be avoided. If you going to be successful then you will have to make some tough decisions in life… That includes walking away from certain loved ones. This could mean best friends, family members and even your wife.
You may think you are helping a negative person by hanging around them but trust me, they will only drag you down to their level.
One of the reasons I left my home town was to escape my old circle of friends and have new experiences. Many of my friends are smart and successful people but there’s also a percentage who refuse to think big. They have set mental limitations for themselves and they just can’t imagine doing anything big with their lives.
You know the type… They always have a reason why they can’t do something. My friend hates his job so I suggest starting a business… “Aww man I don’t have the cash for that. What if it fails? Then I’m fucked… No way man… I got kids now. I need to feed them.”
He already decided in his mind that he can’t open a business and he’ll never be successful… So that’s what he will get!
Hey man it’s your life. If you want to work at a job you fuckin hate then go for it! Just don’t talk to me about your imaginary problems.
Me and my friends who are winning in life never think like that… If we want to do something we just make it happen.
Two years ago I made a decision to move to Thailand. I didn’t know how I would do it… I just decided I would go! If you want something bad enough you will find a way. It’s not always easy, but it’s possible.
I remember telling my friends I was moving to Asia… The losers in the group said things like “no you’re not… What are you going to do out there? You’ll be back in a week. You will miss home.”
My successful friends with positive attitudes had the exact opposite reaction. They said things like ” that’s awesome bro! It looks beautiful out there! Once you get settled let me know. I want to visit you out there. Good luck man!”
You need to be very careful about who you associate with. Even if you know someone is a loser, if you love and respect that person then on some level you will listen to what they say. You may find yourself second guessing your goals and business plans based on a few negative comments from unsuccessful people.
I know I’ve had conversations with negative people and then later that night I would think to myself… Fuck maybe he’s right… What if I lose everything? Maybe this is dumb idea? 🙁 They planted the negative seed in my mind and it was growing. Beware this trap!
Some people just LOVE to dump their bullshit problems in your ear. Everyone has at least one of these people in their lives… They approach you at the bar or the gym and it’s like they are backing up a dump truck full of their problems and they have chosen YOU to unload on… Beep beep beep beep…..
“Ahh fuck my girl is a bitch man I hate her… My boss is a dick head damn I wish I could quit… I would love to travel but I only get a few weeks off work…” On and on they go with their shit.
These days I have zero tolerance for negativity. In fact, my New Years Resolution is “positive thoughts only.” I have walked away from several people recently who brought that toxic attitude into the conversation.
Some people just love being miserable. It’s like complaining is a hobby for them. Here in Asia, these guys usually meet up at the bar around noon and start bitching about everything they hate in life. Steer clear from this crowd.
My life is fuckin awesome. I live in paradise and call my own shots. I’m not going to let anyone bring me down with their negative bullshit.
I’m telling you that you can do anything you want. Just stay positive. Work hard and believe in yourself. You can make it happen!
Even if you aren’t where you want to be at the moment, you have to enjoy the journey. It could always be worse… There’s always something to be grateful for. Life is too short to walk around depressed and angry. It doesn’t help you or the people around you.
The point of this post is to say that your attitude is everything. It can literally make or break you! Also, hanging with the wrong people will fuck up your life.
You are the sum total of your five best friends. You probably have the same interests as them and you most likely make the same amount of money.
If your friends are drug addicts who make minimum wage then I can make a good guess about your lifestyle. If your friends are all physically fit business owners then I would bet you also hit the gym and grind hard on your own ventures.
The old saying goes, hang with four rich men and you’re bound to be the fifth.
I’m not saying you should only choose friends based on their net worth… But I do think rich and poor is a state of mind and I only hang with people who have a positive outlook on life.
Nothing is impossible. Don’t underestimate yourself. Think BIG. Reject being average. Stay away from negative losers.
That’s it for today. I’m going to the beach. Cheers!